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The Two Paths of Rejected Love

By Monica Nelson I have a friend who tells the story of her parents. They were both very young and neither had experienced romantic love before. Having met on a blind date, they instantly and instinctively knew that they had met their soul mate. They married within two weeks of meeting because he was to go off to war. They remained married and happily in love until the day they died many years later. Fascinating, beautiful story. But one that is rare. The majority of us experience at least one rejection and that rejection generally cuts down to the bone. My own story is more common. I was into my … Continue reading

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Love, Truth, and an Absolute Need for Clear Perspective

By Monica Nelson I am always working on finding the truth. The truth to me is what is good and right. And it is not always what is obvious. Why is it so important to me to do this? People who know me well, think of me as a rather straight-laced, somewhat naive person. I tend to look for the positive in people, which has a tendency to bite me in my vulnerabilities more often than is comfortable. At the heart of my soul, I believe that people are basically good but often misguided individuals whose evil-leaning tendencies originate from a lack in their lives. Some lack more than others. … Continue reading

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Take a Moment to Sit in Love

By Monica Nelson About a year ago, I took my son to pick up his glasses at the optometrist. It had been an extremely hot and frustrating day. After a number of errands, this was our last and we wanted to get home. The optometrist’s counter was just inside the doctor’s office off to the left. The pathway toward the doctor’s office was at an angle that cut across the very small area in front of the counter. People were smashed against one another when we arrived. My son and I stood on the fringes waiting our turn. We moved side-to-side as people walked to and from the doctor’s intake … Continue reading

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Highly Personal Forgiveness

By Monica Nelson It is easier to forgive an enemy than a friend. –Madame Dorothée Deluzy If I were asked to list all the learning lessons of my life, forgiving would be one of the top-ranked themes. I can fairly say that I have faced all kinds of situations that at least presented an opportunity to forgive someone or something, if not having been its major focus. Forgiveness and all its many challenges is in ample supply in my life, as I suspect it is in yours. While the mechanics of forgiveness were always a source of learning, I pretty much knew its character. Or so I thought I did. It was … Continue reading

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Surviving the Road Less Traveled

By Monica Nelson Early in my life journey I discovered the book The Road Less Traveled, by M. Scott Peck. This book propelled me toward the life I have now, a mission on growth, spirituality and love. In those 30 plus years, I’ve learned a few things I want to share here. If you find yourself on the same path, and most of us do, I hope that you will gain an insight from my list. First and foremost, be kind to yourself; love starts with the source. If you can not love yourself, how do you expect to love anyone or anything else. Know that the journeys that grow … Continue reading

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The Power of Hope and Faith

By Monica Nelson I have had a rotten week. My family and I are dealing with a lot of stress. My husband is facing the loss of his job, my freelance business is slow to take off, and finances are overwhelming us right now. The pressures of the week became unbearable after my son was kicked out of boy scout camp. Let’s just say, I went into the bluest of funks that anyone could imagine. I hit a new bottom. I’m sure you have all been there. The circumstances of your life are different than mine, but everyone deals with their own individual lows at various times in life. While … Continue reading

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Show Don’t Tell and the Love Verb

By Monica Nelson In writing, there is a rule for engaging an audience. It is the Show Don’t Tell rule. For a story to be effective, to draw in the reader, to grab hold of interest and keep it, a writer must seize the audience’s emotions. Which scene captivates you more? He could feel a surge of nausea move up from his stomach to his throat. But he could stand it no longer. Fixing his gaze into her eyes willing it to hold her attention, he slid his cold hands down to hers and held them with shaking confidence. His knee fell to the gravel, pain shooting through his leg, … Continue reading

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The Importance of Kindness

By Monica Nelson When I was in my very early 20’s, I worked in an office where one of my co-workers was a woman named Lee. Lee immediately befriended me. Early on, she decided that she was going to hook me up with one of her husband’s many friends, all nice guys looking for nice women to date. Though none of these introductions ever grew into relationships, I remember this period in my life as one of my warmest and happiest memories. But it carries a great regret too. I never once thanked Lee for her kindness and generosity in introducing me to these men. She gave of herself to … Continue reading

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A Different Color of Love

By Monica Nelson Our son is adopted. And, as with many children who are adopted after trauma, he has a different set of issues to deal with than children born with healthy attachment. What these children and their families go through on a daily basis is largely misunderstood by the public at large. To learn more about attachment disorder and its affect on families, google “attachment disorder blog” and read the personal stories of these courageous families. * * * My life over the last 12 or 13 years has not been easy. It’s slid from not always easy but generally trending upward into gradually falling apart. This morning, as … Continue reading

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