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What We Miss When We Don’t Experience All of Life

By Monica Nelson “Happy birthday to you.” Julie looked up to see Reggie and a bevy of their co-workers approaching her desk with her favorite frozen yogurt cake. She smiled broadly taking in every detail. Her friends’ accolades and hugs buoyed her spirits. She relished every micro-second of what was happening. It was not so earlier in the day. Reggie came scurrying up to her desk, “Joan is looking for you. Her meeting with John is in five minutes. She needs those figures now.” Julie let out a slow guttural sound. She was sure Reggie recognized the Joan groan, “Nothing I do pleases that woman.” Reggie didn’t answer. Instead he … Continue reading

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You Can Change Other People, But Not in the Way You Think You Can

By Monica Nelson We’ve all heard how you can not change another person – that if you cannot accept someone’s behavior, your only option is to no longer associate with them. This is important advice if the behavior you cannot accept is violent or otherwise threatening. But in everyday relationships where unacceptable behavior is hurtful but not threatening or simply annoying, you do possess the ability to change that person’s behavior. But it is not in the way you think you can. When people want to change another person’s behavior, they typically resort to nagging, manipulation, or controlling behavior of their own. This type of solution is not a solution. … Continue reading

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4 Insights for Successful Living We Can Learn from Watching a Toddler at Play

By Monica Nelson Recently I visited with a friend at her office where she was entertaining her young granddaughter. The child had an entire floor full of toys spread so thinly there was no room to walk. With this vast array of commercial delight in front of her, what do you think held her interest for longer than the average toddler attention span? Give up? It was a small plastic container (that in a former life held some sort of food item) full of all sizes of metal paper clips, and a very strong magnet. Clamping the magnet on the bottom of the container while watching the paper clips dance … Continue reading

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A Day of Reckoning on National Relaxation Day – Your Lifelong Blueprint to Work/Life Balance Every Day

By Monica Nelson National Relaxation Day is August 15. I just googled “How to relax on National Relaxation Day.” The search came up with over 7 and one-half million results. I consider this a great paradox. And an indication of something really wrong in the way we live our lives now. Think about it – why on earth do we need 7,590,000 articles giving us advice on how to relax? Is it possibly because we have no clue how to do that? [My apologies to my non-USA readers. You can stop reading now – you already get the logic of a healthy work/life balance. And you practice it. I am … Continue reading

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Top 10 Reasons to Practice Kindness and Love – A Countdown

By Monica Nelson We are not naturally kind. Nor are we naturally loving. It takes work and effort. Human nature typically runs on ego, and our egos are not instinctively kind and loving. They prefer to keep self interest above all else. But it is an undeniable fact that kindness and loving behavior are the cornerstones for greatness. If we were all kind and loving to one another, life would truly be a joyous event at every moment. It is the great paradox of human interaction. So to those who seek to rise above their own egoistic tendencies and seek after a more kind and loving nature, I offer this … Continue reading

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5 Levels of Talking — Ordered by the Amount of Love Each Shows

By Monica Nelson Humans require communication. We live with one another and derive our growth from interactions with each other. And that requires the ability to say what is on your mind, as well as to hear and understand what others have on their minds. It is a necessary function of our daily lives. But few of us realize that our speech, our communication with each other constitutes a tool through which we can also affect another person’s life in a positive or negative way. There are five ways in which we connect when we talk: 1. To Satisfy. This level is at the base of our interactions. It is the … Continue reading

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5 Great Ways to Make A Difference – Give a Little, Get a Lot

By Monica Nelson We all have a calling, something that gives us purpose and makes our lives meaningful. Your calling is as individual as you are. But every calling has a common component – the need to make a difference while we inhabit this planet. Discovering your specific answer to this common component may seem elusive. Many times we think that we have to achieve some large accomplishment in order to make a difference. But that is simply not true. There are many seemingly small acts you can do which have huge impacts that you may or may not ever fully comprehend. Here are a few ideas to get you … Continue reading

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What is Open-mindedness? And Why it is Imperative that You Work Toward It

By Monica Nelson To know what open-mindedness is, you first need to look at its opposite – narrow-mindedness. No one wants to be accused of narrow-mindedness. Yet, it is a very prevalent trait among us. Most people refer to their own narrow-mindedness as standing up for what they believe is right. While that sounds noble and altruistic, it is quite the opposite. To clarify, a narrow-minded belief is one in which we unconditionally believe that our way of thinking is correct, and that no one else’s opinion can have merit. We are unwilling to even consider another opinion. Opinionated beliefs come about from fear. We sense that someone with a … Continue reading

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Where the Soul Lives

By Monica Nelson I am going to deviate just a little from my normal advice-type format to throw something at you that I have been kicking around for a while, and to ask a few questions of you. No, it’s not a test with one right answer, but I am asking you for your honest feedback. I’ll start with two radical concepts. Concept Number 1: We are not our bodies. Our body houses the essence of who we are. It is the vehicle through which we operate in a physical world. It is the instrument through which you express who you are at a given moment. Concept Number 2: We … Continue reading

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Life on Overwhelm? 6 Tips to Put Your Life Back On Course

By Monica Nelson We live in fast-moving times. Technology has grown faster in the last 100 years than it has in the entire course of prior human existence. What’s more, it seems to grow faster and faster. Along with this advance comes an ever-growing set of responsibilities and duties. It is not unusual to find yourself overwhelmed. When it seems like life is demanding too much of you, you can become paralyzed and ineffective at doing anything. Before that happens, take a moment to hone up on what you can do to avoid it. 1. Breathe. Stop for a moment and simply breathe. Deep, slow breaths. Breathing will allow you … Continue reading

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