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If you find it hard to forgive, take a radical approach

By Monica Nelson For me, forgiveness is a high aspiration, as you can probably tell if you have read my blog for any length of time. But putting it into practice (and making it stick) is one of the most difficult of my pursuits. If you are with me in this same exasperating goal, you will want to listen to what Colin Tipping has to say in his book, Radical Forgiveness. Discovering this book has (and I don’t say this lightly) changed my life. I hope sharing this with you will work miracles for you too. I will attempt as comprehensive a summary as I can below. In addition, I … Continue reading

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Where the Soul Lives

By Monica Nelson I am going to deviate just a little from my normal advice-type format to throw something at you that I have been kicking around for a while, and to ask a few questions of you. No, it’s not a test with one right answer, but I am asking you for your honest feedback. I’ll start with two radical concepts. Concept Number 1: We are not our bodies. Our body houses the essence of who we are. It is the vehicle through which we operate in a physical world. It is the instrument through which you express who you are at a given moment. Concept Number 2: We … Continue reading

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Be Careful How you Classify Someone, Even if You Mean the Best By It

By Monica Nelson Many, many years ago when I was a young single adult, I became friends with a woman who wanted to set me up with all of her husband’s single friends. She was so adamant about doing this and wanted so much to see me connected to one of them that she tended to “talk me up” a lot. On one such set-up she told the man that I was a model. (Not true. I had taken modeling classes but had never worked as one.) On the night we were to get together, she and I traveled to a practice session (her husband and his friend were both … Continue reading

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The Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde of Comparison; Walking the Thin Line of Discernment/Judging

By Monica Nelson Take any two people on the planet, and make a comparison of them in attitude, behavior, beliefs, manner, and choices. You will not find one, not one, that matches another one perfectly. This is the marvelously wonderful truth of our unique and diversified selves. Beautiful as this may be, it sets us up a dilemma for each of us. We are programmed toward comparison. We make assessments and draw conclusions from all kinds of interactions and observations throughout our days. On the one hand, this makes learning and growing a fundamental part of those days. On the other hand, we can do harm to our growth process … Continue reading

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