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Which Side of the Self-Righteous Indignation Movement are You on?

By Monica Nelson You have a choice. Everyday you make this choice over and over. This choice, how you express yourself, how you guide your own actions, affects not only your destiny but the lives and destinies of others. The choice I am talking about is how you treat the people you come in contact with. Whether it’s family you see every day, or others that play a large part in (or simply brush by) your own life, or whether it is some anonymous stranger you come in contact with online – how you make this choice has consequences beyond finite understanding. For a couple decades now, I’ve noticed a … Continue reading

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You Can Change Other People, But Not in the Way You Think You Can

By Monica Nelson We’ve all heard how you can not change another person – that if you cannot accept someone’s behavior, your only option is to no longer associate with them. This is important advice if the behavior you cannot accept is violent or otherwise threatening. But in everyday relationships where unacceptable behavior is hurtful but not threatening or simply annoying, you do possess the ability to change that person’s behavior. But it is not in the way you think you can. When people want to change another person’s behavior, they typically resort to nagging, manipulation, or controlling behavior of their own. This type of solution is not a solution. … Continue reading

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Top 10 Reasons to Practice Kindness and Love – A Countdown

By Monica Nelson We are not naturally kind. Nor are we naturally loving. It takes work and effort. Human nature typically runs on ego, and our egos are not instinctively kind and loving. They prefer to keep self interest above all else. But it is an undeniable fact that kindness and loving behavior are the cornerstones for greatness. If we were all kind and loving to one another, life would truly be a joyous event at every moment. It is the great paradox of human interaction. So to those who seek to rise above their own egoistic tendencies and seek after a more kind and loving nature, I offer this … Continue reading

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5 Great Ways to Make A Difference – Give a Little, Get a Lot

By Monica Nelson We all have a calling, something that gives us purpose and makes our lives meaningful. Your calling is as individual as you are. But every calling has a common component – the need to make a difference while we inhabit this planet. Discovering your specific answer to this common component may seem elusive. Many times we think that we have to achieve some large accomplishment in order to make a difference. But that is simply not true. There are many seemingly small acts you can do which have huge impacts that you may or may not ever fully comprehend. Here are a few ideas to get you … Continue reading

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Success from a Higher Perspective – Using the Law of Attraction for Real Success

By Monica Nelson The law of attraction has gained popularity since The Secret came out. It’s become a daily pursuit for many people. This universal law promises success for anyone willing to put it into practice. Sounds like a formula for happiness, fulfillment, and joy that will solve humanity’s problems and turn the entire world around. So with so much promise, why have we not moved leaps and bounds ahead in our development? I admit I have not read The Secret. But it seems to me that if this is a perfect solution to creating success where failure has resided for generations, then we would have a completely different world … Continue reading

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Simple Steps, Real Change: Kindness

By Monica Nelson In January, I will be focusing on small changes to make to your life that affect it in a big way. This is my simple religion. No need for temples. No need for complicated philosophy. Your own mind, your own heart is the temple. Your philosophy is simple kindness. – Dalai Lama XIV Many years ago, I heard His Holiness, the Dalai Lama of Tibet speak. My alma mater, Regis University, was hosting the event. Invitations were limited to current and graduated students. As I waited, I sensed a high energy level in the crowd. Excitement mixed with impatience seemed to permeate the gathering at this Jesuit school. … Continue reading

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Make the Season Last – Enjoy the Holiday Feeling All Year Long

By Monica Nelson I revel in the joys of the holiday season. No, it’s not the gifts that stir my internal celebration. It’s the feel. It seems everyone puts aside their angst and bitterness during these few short weeks of the year. The air is alive with cheer, hope, and happiness. This, in and of itself, makes the holidays a time to celebrate. But when the holidays end, we all go back to our grumpiness. Is it possible to get the feel of the holidays all year long? I pulled together a few of the characteristics that I have found make the holidays a bright and warm time. A time … Continue reading

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Why is Good Character so Important?

By Monica Nelson If you are reading my posts with any regularity, you are getting a sense of how important I think character and building good character is. So I thought it was time to explain my reasons behind this philosophy. I hope that you, too, will see the importance of this purpose in your life. Life Growth If you strip away your home, your car, your belongings; if you strip away your achievements, your financial status, your standing in your community and the world; if you strip away your friends, your family, and your most trusted advisors, what you have left is the base or essence of who you … Continue reading

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Becoming a Deeper Level of Kind

By Monica Nelson Years ago I had a friend, Robin. Robin was neither ugly nor was she outstandingly attractive. But Robin attracted everyone – men, women, children, everyone loved Robin from the moment they came within a few feet of her. And they, in fact, seemed to flock to her in groves. I found this an interesting phenomenon. So much so, I set about trying to discover what it was about Robin that drew people to her like hummingbirds to sugar water. Over a few months time, I analyzed Robin’s interactions with everyone she came in contact with, as well as myself. What I found was that Robin’s special trait, … Continue reading

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The Importance of Kindness

By Monica Nelson When I was in my very early 20’s, I worked in an office where one of my co-workers was a woman named Lee. Lee immediately befriended me. Early on, she decided that she was going to hook me up with one of her husband’s many friends, all nice guys looking for nice women to date. Though none of these introductions ever grew into relationships, I remember this period in my life as one of my warmest and happiest memories. But it carries a great regret too. I never once thanked Lee for her kindness and generosity in introducing me to these men. She gave of herself to … Continue reading

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