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Is Emotional Intelligence a Double-edged Sword? – Beware the EI Covert Emotional Manipulators

By Monica Nelson Empathy is a strong and mostly positive character trait. We value empathy for its power in encouraging good moral behavior in society, teaching our young the difference between right and wrong, and creating a philanthropic sensitivity toward the less-fortunate in our world. But, like so many other things, empathy can be exploited. And often is in the hands of skillful manipulators. Manipulators come in all forms. Some are driven by character deficiencies, others by low self-esteem and painful or tragic pasts. Some, however, are simply born that way. But the very worst are those who know that they are manipulating others and continue to do so for … Continue reading

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Paying a Higher Form of Compliment

By Monica Nelson Think about a time when you received a compliment that made you feel like walking on air. Knowing that someone else has recognized one of your shining characteristics and taken the effort to praise you for it is a great feeling. Giving another person a compliment is not only a social grace, it is a way to uplift and affirm them. Paying someone a compliment is a loving act. And something we should do more often for one another. So why not do it right? Superficial Compliments When we want to compliment someone, we often go with the first thing that comes into our minds. This usually … Continue reading

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Why Strengthening Your Emotional Life Should Rank as One of the Most Important Goals of Your Life

By Monica Nelson On a recent trip into town, I approached a T-turn in the left-hand lane. I noted the recently replaced sign that showed the rules for the turn had changed. The sign previously indicated that a driver could make both a left- and a right-hand turn from the right-hand lane. The new sign stated that the right-hand lane now permitted a right-hand turn only, leaving the left-hand lane the only legal lane from which a left-hand turn could be made. After the light changed, I made my left-hand turn simultaneously merging into the far right. That’s when an angry horn sounded and I jumped. The woman in the … Continue reading

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Simple Steps, Real Change: Boosting Your Emotional Intelligence

By Monica Nelson This is the second in a series of small changes to make to your life that affect it in a big way. I worked for a lawyer once who was impossible. He was well-known in his field, and sought after by wealthy women for his no-holds-barred approach to getting one-sided divorce settlements. His intelligence was only rivaled by his unparalleled bear-cat reputation. While his IQ was near or at Mensa level, his relationship prowess was next to zero. Working for this man was drudgery. His work standards were unreachable by anyone beneath god-status. When unhappy, he roared at his staff. He had little empathy and no social … Continue reading

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