Author Archives: monicadnelson

About monicadnelson

Monica is an entrepreneur, business owner, freelance writer/editor, truth seeker, free spirit, and self-improvement enthusiast. She loves to share her experience and teach interested people the things that she has learned along her life journey. Follow her at and Twitter.

Top 10 Qualities to Grow If You Want Indestructible Friendships

By Monica Nelson True friends are priceless. We all want and need friendships. Emerging science suggests that our brains and nervous system thrive from interactions created through friendship. And that our self-identity is derived from people we closely associate with. But we don’t need science to know that friends add zest and well-being to our lives. So here are my top ten qualities you will want to grow if you hope to create lasting and unbreakable friendships. 1. Love. You probably love your friend or that person would not be your friend. Having that love and showing it on a daily basis are two separate qualities. Love grows on its … Continue reading

Posted in Character Building | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Which Side of the Self-Righteous Indignation Movement are You on?

By Monica Nelson You have a choice. Everyday you make this choice over and over. This choice, how you express yourself, how you guide your own actions, affects not only your destiny but the lives and destinies of others. The choice I am talking about is how you treat the people you come in contact with. Whether it’s family you see every day, or others that play a large part in (or simply brush by) your own life, or whether it is some anonymous stranger you come in contact with online – how you make this choice has consequences beyond finite understanding. For a couple decades now, I’ve noticed a … Continue reading

Posted in Discerning Your World | Tagged , , , , , | 1 Comment

How to Handle Conflicting Information – 5 Steps to Peaceful Progress

By Monica Nelson To those of us who seek out counsel and advice from valued sources, looking for the answers to our personal life questions, it can be a bit confusing sometimes. Conflicting advice abounds in our information-laden world. One example might be the question of whether or not it is appropriate to gain wealth. On the one hand you find information that suggests that there is nothing wrong with making money. Often such advice uses as support the fact that once you have a certain amount of wealth, you will be able to share it with those who are less fortunate. On the other hand, you will find advice that … Continue reading

Posted in Discerning Your World | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

If you find it hard to forgive, take a radical approach

By Monica Nelson For me, forgiveness is a high aspiration, as you can probably tell if you have read my blog for any length of time. But putting it into practice (and making it stick) is one of the most difficult of my pursuits. If you are with me in this same exasperating goal, you will want to listen to what Colin Tipping has to say in his book, Radical Forgiveness. Discovering this book has (and I don’t say this lightly) changed my life. I hope sharing this with you will work miracles for you too. I will attempt as comprehensive a summary as I can below. In addition, I … Continue reading

Posted in Discerning Your World, Insights from My Life | Tagged , , , , , , | Leave a comment

5 Steps to Commanding Self Belief and Confident Expectation

By Monica Nelson Quick – what is the most important quality to propel you through life with the utmost efficiency, happiness, and accomplishment? Self belief is an incredibly important characteristic, and yet so few of us really embody it. Nor do we embrace it with the respect that it deserves. Yet, it is the backbone of our personal growth. Its strength guides us through the murky waters of our most difficult times. The quiet shadow of self belief keeps us strong and moving forward. Known also as faith in yourself, it spawns another quality of great value. Confident expectation is the flashlight we use to find our way through the … Continue reading

Posted in Character Building | Tagged , , , , , | Leave a comment

What We Miss When We Don’t Experience All of Life

By Monica Nelson “Happy birthday to you.” Julie looked up to see Reggie and a bevy of their co-workers approaching her desk with her favorite frozen yogurt cake. She smiled broadly taking in every detail. Her friends’ accolades and hugs buoyed her spirits. She relished every micro-second of what was happening. It was not so earlier in the day. Reggie came scurrying up to her desk, “Joan is looking for you. Her meeting with John is in five minutes. She needs those figures now.” Julie let out a slow guttural sound. She was sure Reggie recognized the Joan groan, “Nothing I do pleases that woman.” Reggie didn’t answer. Instead he … Continue reading

Posted in Character Building | Tagged , , , , | Leave a comment

You Can Change Other People, But Not in the Way You Think You Can

By Monica Nelson We’ve all heard how you can not change another person – that if you cannot accept someone’s behavior, your only option is to no longer associate with them. This is important advice if the behavior you cannot accept is violent or otherwise threatening. But in everyday relationships where unacceptable behavior is hurtful but not threatening or simply annoying, you do possess the ability to change that person’s behavior. But it is not in the way you think you can. When people want to change another person’s behavior, they typically resort to nagging, manipulation, or controlling behavior of their own. This type of solution is not a solution. … Continue reading

Posted in Discerning Your World | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

4 Insights for Successful Living We Can Learn from Watching a Toddler at Play

By Monica Nelson Recently I visited with a friend at her office where she was entertaining her young granddaughter. The child had an entire floor full of toys spread so thinly there was no room to walk. With this vast array of commercial delight in front of her, what do you think held her interest for longer than the average toddler attention span? Give up? It was a small plastic container (that in a former life held some sort of food item) full of all sizes of metal paper clips, and a very strong magnet. Clamping the magnet on the bottom of the container while watching the paper clips dance … Continue reading

Posted in Insights from My Life | Tagged , , , , , | 2 Comments

A Day of Reckoning on National Relaxation Day – Your Lifelong Blueprint to Work/Life Balance Every Day

By Monica Nelson National Relaxation Day is August 15. I just googled “How to relax on National Relaxation Day.” The search came up with over 7 and one-half million results. I consider this a great paradox. And an indication of something really wrong in the way we live our lives now. Think about it – why on earth do we need 7,590,000 articles giving us advice on how to relax? Is it possibly because we have no clue how to do that? [My apologies to my non-USA readers. You can stop reading now – you already get the logic of a healthy work/life balance. And you practice it. I am … Continue reading

Posted in Discerning Your World | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

It’s Free, Easy, and Underutilized – But It’s Absolutely Essential for Optimum Functioning

By Monica Nelson Our son just finished his first real job. He has been looking forward to the day when he could work as a detasseler for three weeks during the summer. It is a great first job for him. He has learned many things from it: the importance of a strong work ethic, commitment to a promise to complete his job, responsibility in doing the very best job he can perform, and the fulfillment from a job well done. We, as his parents, are thrilled with these benefits. And for a 13-year-old, he was making pretty darn good money. To him, this is the most important element of his experience. … Continue reading

Posted in Insights from My Life | Tagged , , , | 2 Comments