Monthly Archives: August 2014

You Can Change Other People, But Not in the Way You Think You Can

By Monica Nelson We’ve all heard how you can not change another person – that if you cannot accept someone’s behavior, your only option is to no longer associate with them. This is important advice if the behavior you cannot accept is violent or otherwise threatening. But in everyday relationships where unacceptable behavior is hurtful but not threatening or simply annoying, you do possess the ability to change that person’s behavior. But it is not in the way you think you can. When people want to change another person’s behavior, they typically resort to nagging, manipulation, or controlling behavior of their own. This type of solution is not a solution. … Continue reading

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4 Insights for Successful Living We Can Learn from Watching a Toddler at Play

By Monica Nelson Recently I visited with a friend at her office where she was entertaining her young granddaughter. The child had an entire floor full of toys spread so thinly there was no room to walk. With this vast array of commercial delight in front of her, what do you think held her interest for longer than the average toddler attention span? Give up? It was a small plastic container (that in a former life held some sort of food item) full of all sizes of metal paper clips, and a very strong magnet. Clamping the magnet on the bottom of the container while watching the paper clips dance … Continue reading

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A Day of Reckoning on National Relaxation Day – Your Lifelong Blueprint to Work/Life Balance Every Day

By Monica Nelson National Relaxation Day is August 15. I just googled “How to relax on National Relaxation Day.” The search came up with over 7 and one-half million results. I consider this a great paradox. And an indication of something really wrong in the way we live our lives now. Think about it – why on earth do we need 7,590,000 articles giving us advice on how to relax? Is it possibly because we have no clue how to do that? [My apologies to my non-USA readers. You can stop reading now – you already get the logic of a healthy work/life balance. And you practice it. I am … Continue reading

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It’s Free, Easy, and Underutilized – But It’s Absolutely Essential for Optimum Functioning

By Monica Nelson Our son just finished his first real job. He has been looking forward to the day when he could work as a detasseler for three weeks during the summer. It is a great first job for him. He has learned many things from it: the importance of a strong work ethic, commitment to a promise to complete his job, responsibility in doing the very best job he can perform, and the fulfillment from a job well done. We, as his parents, are thrilled with these benefits. And for a 13-year-old, he was making pretty darn good money. To him, this is the most important element of his experience. … Continue reading

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