Monthly Archives: March 2014

Two Very Different Ways to Deal With Hurt

By Monica Nelson You’ve been hurt by someone you care about. They have carelessly taken your heart and stomped all over it. How you react not only tells a lot about who you are as a person, it dictates how you feel. There are as many unique ways to react to a hurt as there are individuals on this earth. But let’s take a look at some general responses and analyze how they affect your life. One: Allowing Emotionally Overrun Responses These type of responses occur when you allow your hurt and pain to take over. When you let anger, bitterness, and vengeance have ultimate control, your response becomes a … Continue reading

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Getting Past the Past, so You Can Live in the Present

By Monica Nelson A basic thread throughout many of my posts is the need to live in the present. I believe we don’t fully live unless we use each moment we are given to experience that life. Unfortunately, there are a number of impediments that divert our attention and cause present-minding distraction. Let’s take a look at some of these and find ways to overcome them: Stop Ruminating on the Past The term rumination came about from how a cow chews its cud. It is a perfect picture for how we reflect on and relive over and over again past incidents that caused us pain or sorrow. The simple answer … Continue reading

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Success from a Higher Perspective – Using the Law of Attraction for Real Success

By Monica Nelson The law of attraction has gained popularity since The Secret came out. It’s become a daily pursuit for many people. This universal law promises success for anyone willing to put it into practice. Sounds like a formula for happiness, fulfillment, and joy that will solve humanity’s problems and turn the entire world around. So with so much promise, why have we not moved leaps and bounds ahead in our development? I admit I have not read The Secret. But it seems to me that if this is a perfect solution to creating success where failure has resided for generations, then we would have a completely different world … Continue reading

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If your happiness depended upon it, could you accept yourself without reservation?

By Monica Nelson A recent study showed something quite amazing. A survey of 5,000 people rated responses to ten scientifically-identified happiness “keys” or habits. The keys are these: Giving Relating Exercising Appreciating Trying out Direction Resilience Emotion Acceptance Meaning Respondents were asked to rate how often they practiced these habits. Which one do you think came in last? Okay, I gave it away already. Acceptance (self-acceptance) was the one least practiced. It scored a lowly 5.56 out of 10. Giving came in first with 7.41. I find that troubling, because you cannot truly give from the heart if you come from a position of self-debasement. So why do so many of … Continue reading

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If You Need an Excuse . . . The Power and Pain of Separation

By Monica Nelson Standing in the back of the crowded pavilion, the largest building for miles able to accommodate this size crowd, I watched as two darkly dressed, solemn-faced funeral workers shifted the coffin into place in front of otherwise inconspicuous back doors. Within seconds, the doors opened. The new widow flanked by two young men emerged slowly from the opening. The trio stepped up to the coffin and stared down into it. Though we were not close to the family, the youngest of the children is my son’s classmate. We wanted to show our support for them at a very difficult time. The standing-room only crowd forced us closer … Continue reading

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