Monthly Archives: January 2014

Simple Steps, Real Change: Cure Hopelessness with Learned Optimism

By Monica Nelson This is the last in a series of small changes to make to your life that affect it in a big way. Hopelessness is one of the most insidious emotions. Like a wildfire set out to destroy all in its path, it paralyzes not only the sufferer but also anyone that person comes in contact with. It has always been a scourge that stifles human growth and happiness. Its effects are devastating. In 2010, there were 38,364 U.S. deaths resulting from suicide, a side effect of hopelessness and depression. All of us deal with depression and pessimism to some degree. So, even if your blues are not … Continue reading

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Simple Steps, Real Change: Make Your Smile Genuine

By Monica Nelson This is the third in a series of small changes to make to your life that affect it in a big way. “A smile is something you can’t give away; it always comes back to you.” –Author Unknown Your smile is more powerful than you realize. That’s not just a glib statement. A smile is a nonverbal communication device that connects you with your emotions; and based upon whether or not it is authentic, lifts or flattens your own mood. Notice the difference here, your smile must be genuine to have a positive effect. While that authentic smile is working on your mood, it is also trickling … Continue reading

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Simple Steps, Real Change: Boosting Your Emotional Intelligence

By Monica Nelson This is the second in a series of small changes to make to your life that affect it in a big way. I worked for a lawyer once who was impossible. He was well-known in his field, and sought after by wealthy women for his no-holds-barred approach to getting one-sided divorce settlements. His intelligence was only rivaled by his unparalleled bear-cat reputation. While his IQ was near or at Mensa level, his relationship prowess was next to zero. Working for this man was drudgery. His work standards were unreachable by anyone beneath god-status. When unhappy, he roared at his staff. He had little empathy and no social … Continue reading

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Simple Steps, Real Change: Kindness

By Monica Nelson In January, I will be focusing on small changes to make to your life that affect it in a big way. This is my simple religion. No need for temples. No need for complicated philosophy. Your own mind, your own heart is the temple. Your philosophy is simple kindness. – Dalai Lama XIV Many years ago, I heard His Holiness, the Dalai Lama of Tibet speak. My alma mater, Regis University, was hosting the event. Invitations were limited to current and graduated students. As I waited, I sensed a high energy level in the crowd. Excitement mixed with impatience seemed to permeate the gathering at this Jesuit school. … Continue reading

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